Did you know that at least one in ten mothers will have an episode of PPD?! This will increase her risk for hormonal problems a year or two later. I didn’t know this stat when I gave birth the first time. And since I had never really been depressed before it hit me like a ton of bricks. Even more good news (NOT!)… If you too suffered from postpartum depression with your first baby, it triples your chances of experiencing it again with a second child. I also did not know this stat and YUP, it happened to me, again.
Being on this side of depression (that’s the much happier, less anxious side) and looking back I can see that what was most depressing was how alone I felt. A part of me knew it was not normal to feel this way and that’s because it’s not normal to raise children this way! Historically, mothers have raised families in small groups of hunter-gatherers. THIS feels like the “right” way to raise children. Doesn’t it?!
I feel nostalgic for this old fashioned way of life in which it was normal and free to eat local, fresh, organic foods and breath smog free air and drink water free of chemicals. Mostly though, I long for a time when mothers spent most of their days with other mothers, surrounded by a community.
Unfortunately, compared with our ancestors few of us eat whole foods and much of our daily diets consist of white flour, sugar, and artificial chemicals. It literally leaves my skin crawling to think about how my own innocent children are absorbing toxins released into the environment and that even my breast milk has traces of toxins in it.
Raising kids is not meant to be like this!
If you are one of the few mothers to have low demands, substantial resources, and low vulnerabilities count yourself as one of the lucky ones. I know I do, every single day. And still, my cupboard gets emptied out and I struggle to put anything back in. THIS is why I wanted to create a community where wise women (nutritionists, acupuncturists, therapists, outdoor educators, midwives, doulas, yoga teachers, parenting coaches, massage therapists… and more) come to educate and commune with us and remind us that we do not have to do this alone. Because, I am DONE with that.
If you would like to join our circle you can do so here. Take care of yourself and let others take care of you too. xo, mama.