This is a blog about celebrating being a well supported, self-cared for, happy mama. It celebrates living fully, abundantly, authentically and reveling in ordinary and extraordinary moments. It gives you permission to be angry (if that’s how you feel) and calls you out to experience more joy (if you want to!)
I believe we must live well nourished, expressive and juicily feminine lives as women and as mothers so that our children have role models of what it means to live full out.
Whenever I read self-help books (and I read them a lot!) I am so grateful that other people have gone before me to raise their children with respect, live their lives with a sense of peace and calm, started mindful businesses, and then have written about their experiences. I feel grateful because I can now walk in their footsteps.
This is NOT THAT. I don’t want you to walk in my foot steps. I want you to walk beside me, hand in hand. We are on this journey together. I do not know more than you do.
My investigations have shown that we frequently think other moms know IT, but we don’t know IT. “IT” could be:
- How to have it all- clean house, happy kids, satisfied husband…
- How to get their kids to go the f*ck to sleep
- How to make home cooked, pinterest worthy meals for breakfast, lunch and dinner 7 days a week.
Facebook is famous for making us feel this way. I’d like our page to be different, a place where we can show up as our not always so positive selves. As Elisabeth Kubler Ross says, “I’m not ok, you’re not ok, and that’s ok.”
People often comment that I am such a “positive person.” Being positive is a choice. I am flooded with the same self doubts, anxieties, insecurities, rages, incessant worries and critical inner voice as you are- probably more!
Sometimes I feel like, in our circle, I go overboard describing my faults or flaws, to the extent that I wonder if the other moms are cringing on the inside and wondering, “Why am I even in circle with this person who is so riddled with stuff?” But aren’t we ALL riddled with stuff?!
At the same time, I feel it is much more interesting and often just FEELS BETTER to focus on and magnify the positive. Being positive doesn’t mean being accepting of the negative, or ignorant of issues, or the state of the world. It means seeing grace in as much as we can see.
If we share our stories, we will have companions on this journey. My personal story is full of fear, pain, love, shame, wonder, ecstasy, good fortune, bravery, and glorious imperfections. I invite you to travel along with me as I share my stumblings as a wife, astonishments as a mother, and discoveries as a woman. And PLEASE, share your own stories!
In what ways are you tempted to collapse into the negative?