The other day, one of my clients was about to say she was “… so busy” and immediately changed her language!
You see, I believe the word “busy” is so overused – and all of my clients know it. Instead, I have empowered them to say, “I have a full schedule…” or “I have such a full life…” and “…I am so thankful for it!”
I admit– I used to use the word “busy” ALL. THE. TIME.
When people would ask how I was doing, I’d say, “I’m so busy! I’m doing this, and that, and this… blah, blah, blah…”
My energy was busy and frantic; I wasn’t very present, and I was overwhelming my schedule with WAY too many things.
Here’s the deal…
I was moving too quickly!
I was filling my time by saying YES to everything and not really being clear with my own goals and dreams… And to get it all done I told myself that I had to HURRY.
Once I realized I was going nowhere fast, with no clear focal point, I knew I needed to do something.
So I became clear with my goals. I did this by doing less more slowly. And I began looking at my daily calendar as a blank canvas to build my dream life. I had values around slow living (eating and preparing meals slowly, raising my kids without constantly rushing them, and spending time doing what I love), but my life didn’t reflect these values until I started making them a priority.
And once I became clear with what I really, really wanted to focus on—and more importantly, WHO I wanted to become, it became easier and easier to prioritize and plan out my days, so they were fully aligned with my values.
A good rule of thumb for slowing down is the “rule of one.”
Adopting the rule of one means slowing down one activity (thought process, issue) — with awareness — for one minute, once a day, for one week.
Increase the task or time spent by increments of one as you begin to feel more comfortable and safe.
For example, if you would like to eat a meal more slowly, your sub-list might look something like this:
-Notice how my body feels when I am hungry
-Take a sip of water
-Notice what my mind tells me I should be eating
-Look at my food before putting it in my mouth
-Take inventory of what I have to do today so that I can MAKE time for a slow meal, etc.
Once you’ve made your sub-list, choose ONE task that you can address for one minute today (actually put it on your calendar now.) Notice how you feel before, during, and after your one minute practice of slowing down. Repeat or address a new task from your sub-list tomorrow, and the next day, until eating a meal slowly comes easily.
“If you will only pause, as you hurry through your days, take a minute to look at passersby, beyond cursory skin-deep analysis, all the way into their eyes, what beauty you might find woven from the life threads there.”
― Ellen Hopkins, Perfect
If you’re struggling with any of this in your own life, I’m here for you.
Click here and let’s schedule a time to chat about YOUR dream life– and let 2018 be the year you make it happen!