Stop Over Complicating Things!

Hi, I’m Isabelle and I’m an overcomplicator.  Are you an overcomplicator, too? Welcome to the club!

What are some of the ways we overcomplicate?

We keep gathering more and more opinions rather than forming our own

We think “But I don’t know how”

We learn more and more and then discover that there are contradictions!

We even sometimes choose confusion over clarity

This was me! Seriously, as a young mom, I so often felt unsure of myself, like I didn’t really know what I was doing and why didn’t you tell me it would be this hard, or confusing, or painful???

But here’s the biggest lesson I learned both in parenting and humanising…Clarity comes from taking action. Say that again!​Take Action

So, wherever you are on your journey, whatever is on the horizon for you, the ideas here can help you move forward with more confidence and ease. With 3 tips for how to be more decisive and 5 simple steps for how to take decisive action.

We can’t think our way through challenges. Or out of our problems. We can’t think our way to perfection. Or even into things working out how we want!At some point, we have to roll up our sleeves and just do it. Try that lesson. Be willing for it to flop. Because when things don’t go well, or don’t go as planned…that’s just as much of a learning experience as when everything goes swimmingly well.

And guess what?  You’re also modeling for your kids that it’s ok to try things without knowing how it will turn out. We learn from just seeing what happens. From observing the outcome and making adjustments from there.

Remember to celebrate your successes as well as your efforts! Celebrate your willingness to try!

Some things will work well for a while and then fall away. And that’s ok too. That’s just how it is. But in order to keep that forward momentum going, we need to stop overcomplicating and choose the next step.

Here are three tips for how to be more decisive…

3 Tips for How to Be More Decisive

Stop deceiving yourself into thinking that there’s one best or right way.…There are SO many ways to do life. We’re looking for someone to tell us what’s best and exactly how to do it. But that is just keeping us stuck.

Don’t second-guess yourself.

Look forward, not back – We want to look back briefly, observe the present, and plan for the next empowered action.

That’s how you gradually but incrementally improve. And gain that forward momentum that we all need in order to feel inspired to continue.

This is in part a personality thing, of course. Some of us feel a sense of heaviness about decision-making…like we don’t know enough or it feels like too big of a responsibility. Others of us want to continually change our minds, thinking there must be something better we just don’t know about yet. Some of us just decide and then regret our choice, thus going back to making a new decision. And others of us just drag our feet and keep saying “I don’t know what to do next.” OR “I don’t know how.”

My own personal experience early on…I kept constantly changing my mind. Every time there was a challenge or even pushback from my kids, I’d start questioning my decisions. I’d think I was doing this mom thing wrong. So I’d do more research, ask another friend how she was handling nap time, stall, even do nothing some days because I didn’t know what to do.

There are hundreds of ways to raise a child…all these options are great… Until they get in your way of moving forward. I just want you to remember that you can and will find your OWN way.

Here’s what that looks like…

We want to commit, implement, observe, tweak, and move forward.

5 Action Steps to be More Decisive

And that very first step, to commit, requires us to make a decision. To make a choice.

My suggestion is you find someone further down the path than you are, find out why and how they did things, get in touch with your intuition about your child, situation, family…and then